I mean, we don't need to know all that. I don't really care about her hormones or her hair or her relationship. All I need to know is her gender is female, and what pronouns she wants to use, so that if I'm writing something about her I get it correct. The rest of it is none of my damn business or yours.
I'm thrilled for her that she's happy and that she's managed to come out and that her wife supports her. Hopefully her profile will make it easier for other people in her situation to feel able to come out, and make their transitioning easier because others are more aware of the issues.
Hopefully.
But then I made the mistake of going below the line on PunkNews (I'm not linking to it, because fuck PunkNews), and my hopes... didn't so much as wane as were beaten to death with a big stick. When I looked, there were around 500 comments, each falling into one of five categories. I'll list them and discuss them separately:
Firstly, there were some good comments. And by 'good comments' I mean 'fully supportive and used correct pronouns'. Unfortunately, there weren't many of those, but they were definitely there. Secondly were the people who were broadly supportive but kept saying 'he, him, s/he?' etc. This was probably about half of the commenters. I get it, you think this is a Good Thing, but it really isn't fucking hard to say 'she', or whatever the person wishes. I know not everyone is clued up on trans issues, and at least you're trying...but you don't get a cookie.
Then cometh the trolls. The first camp under the bridge insisted on referring to her as 'he', because BIOLOGY, YO. The one's who were, y'know, just 'keeping it real' and telling the 'truth'. Cuz like, it's just 'not natural'. And as we all know, punks are all about natural. That's why none of them ever dye their hair, or get piercings and tattoos....OH NO WAIT.
And then there were the second type, who were Against Me!'s 'biggest fans', but were either a) 'worried' that hormone therapy would make Laura's voice change and OH NOES WHAT SHALL WE EVER DO, THERE'S NEVER BEEN ANY GOOD WOMEN VOCALISTS IN PUNK EVER or b) so totally fucking 'disgusted' that they just wouldn't ever be able to listen to the music ever again. Poor babies. Just to clarify, here are some good reasons to be so disgusted you don't want to listen to music you enjoy: the singer is racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic/ableist/a capitalist, and you find their views so objectionable it stops you enjoying their music (see me and Amanda Palmer). Here are shit reasons to stop listening to music you enjoy: you give a fuck about what's in the singer's pants. GROW UP. Newsflash: If a singer's gender identity stops you being a band's 'biggest fan', you're not their biggest fan.
And finally, we had the dudebros who managed to make this all about their dicks. Now, amazingly, these people managed to (presumably unintentionally) completely transcend cissexism, and just go straight back to regular sexism. You see, the problem these guys have, the deep, burning problem that's just so fucking great that they must shout about it on the internet is that they won't fancy Laura as a woman. Someone call Amnesty International, this is truly the greatest human rights violation of our time. Apparently unconcerned with Laura's face/clothes/body when they thought she was a dude, this is now what is actually important. Because as we all know, women only get into punk for bonerification purposes, and if a woman does not immediately make the crotch of your jeans burst open at its seams, she's not doing her job.
So, a message to anyone who recognises themselves in those latter categories:
Punk's supposed to be about tolerance, acceptance and embracing other people's lifestyles, and more than anything - it's about choice. If you're going to be a shit to people because of their gender, their sexuality, or any other expression of themselves, you're about as punk as Nick Clegg. Ooh, you want to preserve 'traditional' repressive notions of fixed binary gender roles, how fucking radical. Go fucking cut your hair, start listening to Skrillex and shit off out of my scene, you posers.
" You see, the problem these guys have, the deep, burning problem that's just so fucking great that they must shout about it on the internet is that they won't fancy Laura as a woman"
ReplyDeleteDid… did they fancy her before? I don't see what they've lost otherwise.
I sort of get the thing about her voice changing which wouldn't be applicable in any other job, but then between Relationship of Command and The Bedlam in Goliath Cedric Bixler-Zavala's voice goes up about nine octaves and nobody complains seriously about the shape of his trouser-danglies.
Right on. Transgender folks have a harder time than gays and lesbians, but I don't recall a big deal being made when Rob Halford came out of the closet. I saw his last concert and the arena was packed. Fans need to get over it.
ReplyDeleteThis is a really good post! Transgender people seem to be one of those groups that people can still openly make fun of unfortunately, but it's good that more people are speaking out against that.
ReplyDeleteWas "(see me and Amanda Palmer)" supposed to be linked to something?
I used to love Amanda Palmer, but I had to stop listening to her after she responded to criticism of Evelyn Evelyn by going on TV and laughing at 'handicapped feminists', made transphobic remarks and rape 'jokes' and joked about giving money to the KKK 'ironically' - she might be great on some issues, but she's far too happy to throw people aren't as privileged as her under the bus to get attention. My feminism doesn't marginalise others to and then pretend it doesn't matter because it's 'art'.
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What you said about the voice was wrong really, yes there are a lot of great female vocalists, but not all of them are great, and its not that I think she will sound terrible, I just think she sounds great as she is, and am worried about losing that. Is this selfish? probably, but being this concerned about music that affects you as much as this band affects me is pretty normal, And from what I know about laura, (as little as that is apparantly) Then the fact her music has this affect on people will probably be something shes proud of.
ReplyDeleteAnd as for the He/She people, I was one of them, Its not that I was trying to cause offence but I've never dealt with this before, and I wanted to show my support as soon as we heard and googling the proper etiquette was the last thing on my mind.
I have nothing to say except "right on!" when I saw the gesture in your picture.
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